It would be difficult to find a married couple who would easily admit that they have the ideal relationship. Marriage is not always a walk in the park. Sometimes, it involves a fair amount of hard work. Obviously, it’s easy to throw in the towel when the going gets tough, but any partner who loves each other deeply isn’t going to do that. As a woman, you may feel like leaving when you find that your husband does not find you as attractive, attractive, or exciting as he used to. You work hard to be the best balance possible between wife, mom, and friend. Knowing that the man you love finds you boring can be both frustrating and discouraging. There is no better time than the present to show him that you still have some spontaneity in you.
Make some personal improvements for yourself
Sometimes a husband is bored with his wife because she is bored with herself. If you follow the same mundane routine day after day and have lost interest in trying something new, your husband may start to look uninteresting. Obviously, he didn’t feel that way when they met, fell in love, and got married.
If you really feel like the spark has left you, it may be time to rediscover that part of yourself. Many women fall into a rut when they get married and become mothers. They put the needs of others ahead of their own and that inevitably causes them to lose their own sense of identity. The result can be a woman who is not only dissatisfied with herself, but also frustrated with her life.
You can change all that by hugging the woman you want to be again. If you gave up your career to become a full-time mother, now may be the right time to consider going back to work part-time or even volunteering a few hours a week.
By the time you get out of the box you’ve been trapped in, you will also become a lot more interesting and intriguing to your husband. It’s hard not to put your family first, but it’s also imperative that you take care of who you are. As you find your new passion in life, you will soon discover that your husband will find you as attractive as the day you met.
Plan Somewhat Unexpected Today
The thought of coming up with new things to do in an outdated marriage may seem like a lot of work, but it doesn’t have to be. Even trying something as simple as cooking something completely unexpected for dinner will change your husband’s opinion of you almost instantly. If you’d rather not struggle to come up with a new dish, gather the ingredients, and sweat all afternoon in the kitchen, why not make a reservation at an exotic restaurant? Lay your husband’s best suit on the bed and dress to the nines before he gets home. In this scenario, you tell him to shower and change quickly and you are off to an exciting and impulsive dinner. It will be you who takes it down.
If your husband is a huge sports fan and you’ve always been hiding in another room while he cheered for your favorite team, now may be the time to jump into the sport with him. Buy tickets to the next home game for your team and join them in the stands or on the sidelines. He will not expect this at all and will be touched that you have suddenly become interested in something that he absolutely adores.
Reconnect with your husband as a couple
Your husband may see you as a boring partner, because he relates more to you as the mother of his children, than as his lover and romantic equal. You have to get her to change her mind so that she sees you as a woman who can effortlessly fill all of those roles and more.
Couple time in a marriage is very important and many wives and husbands simply do not recognize it. They think that if they spend time together and with the children, they will be spending quality time as a family. That’s true, but there’s also a lot to be said for quality couple time.
You don’t have to invest in expensive dates for this to happen. However, you have to invest your time, energy and imagination. Plan times for you and your husband to spend together. Share a relaxing glass of wine at the end of the day after the kids have gone to bed, or take turns making breakfast in bed on the weekends.
You really want to show your husband that you are both his wife and his mother. If he can see you in the renewed role of his romantic life partner, you will instantly ensure that he sees you in a new light as a dynamic and vibrant woman.
Getting out of a negative place in a marriage can be difficult, and showing your husband that you are far from boring can be challenging. However, a happier marriage where you are respected and your needs met is worth whatever effort you have to put in.