Have you ever had friends get emotional and blush about cheating on their potential spouses before they got married? Have you considered one last fling before saying “I do” to her future husband? Why do people do it and what satisfaction do they get from it? Human psychology poses many challenges especially in the field of relationship and commitment. But one thing is for sure, people’s actions are always motivated by something. You’re not going to kiss some random guy in your wedding dress just because the clock struck midnight. You feel a drive, you feel a sense of curiosity, you feel peer pressure; there are many reasons why you would consider cheating before marriage. These are just a few of the few reasons why other people do it, and what these things imply or result after the vows have been said.
Curiosity
Many people do things to satisfy curiosity. Men and women alike attest to that “thrill” — that overwhelming power to do something bad before committing to a lifelong relationship and a promise of good behavior and monogamy. This emotion pushes people to do what is generally considered unacceptable: cheat before marriage. They are curious to know how you feel. Is it as exciting as what other people say? For some, it is an intense adventure that they will surely remember for a lifetime. For others, it’s a huge moment of regret, a huge lack of foresight that leads to what could be a lifetime of regret, as it will inevitably affect the marriage. So before you try that little underhanded thing, don’t forget the old saying “curiosity killed the cat.”
The “ultimate” notion
Many women believe in the idea of getting married only ONCE, hence the lavish and expensive ceremonies and once-in-a-lifetime wedding details. And consequently, they have the idea that their husband will be the last man they will be with. So, the quest begins: to have one last fling before succumbing to a lifelong commitment to be with one person and one person only. This is where the pre-marriage cheating happens. A woman sleeps with one man before she finally decides that she will sleep with only one man from the time she says her vows to her until death do us part. A classic fairy tale, that’s what it is. Actually, cheating before marriage doesn’t necessarily equate to lifelong monogamy afterward. In most cases, infidelity reinforces that desire to have an extramarital affair and leads to the sad reality of infidelity during marriage as well.
human nature
Unfortunately, cheating has already been attributed as part of human nature. Men are believed to be instinctively polygamous. Women are not excluded from this social etiquette. Women who end up being unfaithful before marriage are said to have listened to their primal desires, their human nature. While science continues to present interesting facts and curiosities about how penguins and whales are monogamous: humans seem to be off that list. Cheating is just part of human nature in this day and age. And whether it’s done before or during the marriage, often times it doesn’t make any difference anymore. Unfortunately, cheating before marriage is fast becoming something that is almost considered normal in most social groups. And whatever the reasons an individual may have, it still boils down to the point that it’s an ugly mess for newlyweds because right before they said yes…they did it with someone else.