There are some marriages that seem to be free of problems, but those are very few and far between these days. When those issues escalate or are not handled properly, it can allow love to fade. If you’re a husband who thinks, “I want my wife to love me back,” here are 4 ways to help save your marriage before it’s too late.
Marriage doesn’t come with a manual, and too often we think we can just “wing it.” When a marriage begins, there is a good dose of infatuation that will fade over time; If love is not nurtured, it can easily fade away with life’s troubles and worries.
We all make mistakes in our marriage, what we need is to be willing to work to overcome them. If your wife doesn’t seem overly interested in you anymore, she probably thinks she doesn’t love you anymore.
If you’ve been saying “I want my wife to love me back” and you really want to save your marriage, here are some ways you can do it:
First, don’t be a scold. And don’t make the mistake of thinking that only women scold, men do. If there are small problems that bother you, even bother you, learn to let them go.
A pastor I once knew used the phrase “greater in the greater, lesser in the lesser.” The key issues are where he needs to spend his time, not the little things. That only leads to arguments and fights, when your goal is to make your wife love you again.
Second, be a better listener. Women really fry when they think their husband doesn’t listen to them, never remembers what he says. Your wife will feel that she is not important to you if she does not listen and pay attention when she speaks.
Women think using a different process than men, so it can sometimes be an effort to really absorb what you’re saying and appreciate the logic behind it. Look her in the eye when she talks and find ways to show her that you paid attention later.
Third, refuse to argue. It takes two to argue, just don’t. Keep her calm voice in all her conversations with her. If you want your wife to love you back, treat her with care and respect.
Remember the point above to let the little things slide, which can help prevent an argument over something stupid.
Fourth, don’t discuss the divorce. Take that option off the table; once it’s out in the open, it’s more likely to be considered a way out. If you want your wife to love you, then make that your goal and the focus of your thoughts and conversations with her.
If you mention divorce, then she might think you’ve given up on the marriage. If your wife thinks you’ve given up, chances are she’ll give up, too. Instead, show her that your marriage is a priority for you and so is she.