Did your wife cheat on you while under the influence of alcohol?
Has your wife’s drunken mistake almost cost you your marriage because you are struggling to recover from the news of his infidelity?
It’s frustrating because YOU are the one who works all day and puts food on the table, and the minute your wife has time alone, she’s supposedly having an affair because she was drinking.
If your wife cheated on you just once, and it was under the influence of alcohol, then I guess there’s a resounding question ringing in your mind:
How do I know my wife is trustworthy?
After all, he could be lying about the drinking part. Or if she’s not lying about the drinking, she could be lying about HOW drunk she was.
Besides, what if he hadn’t even gone out with the girls? Many women, when cornered, outright lie to make an affair seem LESS bad. In her mind, she knows that a one-time fling while she’s drunk isn’t as bad as a full fling, so that’s what she tells him happened.
Before you can do anything else, you need to make sure you really believe your wife’s story about alcohol being involved in the affair… If she was lying, then that might be all you need to know.
One beer or five?
Let me ask you this: Your wife comes to you and confesses that she cheated on you because she was absolutely drunk, but then you find out that she had only had a beer or two before she cheated on you…
What is your job?
I mean, obviously she wasn’t in a cast after so little alcohol… Do you still forgive her if she was just drunk instead of completely drunk?
Many women know that the more drunk they say they were, the less blame will naturally fall on their shoulders. So it makes sense that he likes how much she drank. There’s almost no way to find out the truth except to take his wife at her word.
My suggestion would be to try to contact one of the people you were drinking with. Maybe they can confirm that you can’t trust your wife.
I can’t get over the fact that she slept with another man
Unfortunately, there is no easy way for you to magically forget what your wife did with another man. This is a sad fact of life; I honestly wish there was some button I could press to erase your memories or your imagination, but I just can’t.
Here’s my advice: only ask the questions you REALLY want the answers to. Avoid asking questions about the actual act of cheating, at least until you are more prepared for the answers.
The only real cure in this situation is to expect your wife to be there for you and do her part to rebuild your trust. You should expect her wife to be willing to work even harder than you to recover from her infidelity and rebuild her marriage.