What do you do when you really like someone and your friends can’t stand that person? Should you trust the opinions of your friends, or should you continue dating that person anyway? In this type of situation, it is important to dig deeper to find out what everyone is really feeling and why they are having those feelings. First of all, it is important to look at your new date.
blinded by love
When you’re dating someone for the first time, whether you find yourself ‘in love’ or not, you often can’t see what that person is really like. Call it hormones, call it cheating on yourself, or just call it plain idiocy, sometimes we can’t always tell when our dates are horrible for us. In these cases, we should feel lucky to have friends looking through the facade to tell us what’s really going on.
What if your friends are wrong?
What if your friends tell you that the person is horrible to you but you think they are wrong? In this case, you should sit down your friends to explain that they may have gotten the wrong impression of this person and that you really care about them. Your friends should understand. For your heart and tell them that you really appreciate their honesty and caring, but you can take care of yourself.
Some kind of intervention?
What happens when you really like the person, your friends tell you that they don’t like the person, you explain to them that they are wrong and that you really like the person and they still won’t listen? What if your friends stubbornly dislike your date? In that case, you have some decisions to make.
For one thing, you could listen to your friends and break up with the person. On the other hand, you could break up with your friends and hope that you and the other person live happily ever after. The thing is, the answer may not be so obvious. This is when you will have to look at your life, your relationship with this person, and your friendships from an outside perspective.
Are your friends good for you and are they really looking out for your best interests? Or are their reasons selfish and they just don’t like all the attention you’re lavishing on this new person? By taking a deep look at your situation, you should be able to determine the true cause of your friends’ complaints.
So the answer is yes, you should trust your friends’ opinions about the people you’re dating, but you should also take their advice with a grain of salt. Make your own assessment of the situation and make a decision based on your findings. You may gain new love, lose friendships, or find a way to compromise so you can continue the relationship and hold on to your friendships at the same time. The latter is always the best case.