“John is really interested in you, Nickie,” Kiesha said after swallowing a sip of her chocolate shake.
“He’s not my cup of tea,” Nickie replied with a disgusted smile on her face.
“Come on, he’s a really good guy. Give that guy a chance,” Kiesha pleaded.
“He can’t even speak English properly. And look at the way he dresses. The guy’s from the Stone Age. I’d be so embarrassed to be seen with him,” irritation colored Nikie’s voice. She swallowed another swallow of milkshake.
“I guess that’s what John must be saying about you. He doesn’t even look at you, but you’re dying to be in his company. Look at the girls he hangs out with: the queen show contestants and the top cheerleaders. sports- The man of the year has no time for simple girls like us, Nickie. Wake up!” Keisha snapped back.
“Let’s drop the subject. It’s okay,” Nickie slammed the empty glass down on the table.
Nickie has shown her dislike for John due to the value he places on John. John had a very low romantic market value.
Similarly, men are attracted to women they can show off to their friends and family: trophy or high-value women. Men want women who make their friends look at them with admiration and amazement. We all want partners who can enhance our image and personality.
Internationally renowned communication expert Leil Lowndes says that “studies support the thesis that everyone has measurable value on the open market. And everyone wants to get the best possible deal in life, too.” The researchers dubbed his findings the equity (or exchange) theory. of love.”
In simple terms, we all love a person who is sometimes referred to as a “catch.”
The way to get the best “catch” is to become a good “catch” yourself.
How can we become the best option for the people we want to attract? How can we increase our market value to attract the romantic buyers of our choice?
First of all, you need to accept that most people are attracted to other people who have qualifications equal to or higher than yours. We are hardly attracted to people who are somewhat “lower” than us.
Lowndes in his best-selling book “How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You” says that there are six elements that are active when lovers shop for husband or wife:
1. Physical appearance – beauty
2. Material possessions – wealth
3. Social position or popularity – prestige/power
4. Information or knowledge – intelligence
5. Social grace, manners, charisma – personality
6. Inner nature – character
“Researchers tell us that the happiest relationships are with people who are more or less the same in each of the above categories. If not, the qualities balance each other out across the board,” Lowndes said.
Have you noticed that people with money tend to marry other people with money? Children of upper-class families rarely marry into working-class families. Likewise, most people tend to marry other people who are just as physically attractive as they are. Many couples tend to resemble brother and sister. Studies from around the world (USA, Canada, Germany, Japan) show that men and women often marry someone as attractive as they are.
Yes, people can and do get involved with other people who may not be as beautiful as they are. However, that person would compensate by having a high rating in another category. That is, when a beauty queen marries a beast, he is usually very rich or powerful. Likewise, when the high-status family marries people lower down the social ladder, the person is usually very attractive or very intelligent. There is a good compensation in another section, such as Prince Charles and Lady Dianna.